MOTHERHOOD WHEN NO ONE IS WATCHING.

*"MOTHERHOOD, WHEN NO ONE IS WATCHING"*🤱

Hello beautiful ladies! 🤗

Let's talk cos sometimes the biggest stories are the ones we suffer in silence, never voiced and never get to share. 

Remember this is a judgement free zone.😘

So after childbirth, people ask "how is the baby? but no one really ask "how is the mother deeply and honestly.

Then you stay quiet about the fears, pains, anger or sadness.

Dear Moms, We're opening up today and we'll be glad if you'd join, Please walk this part side by side with us.

*The Other Side Of MotherHood*

 _Unspoken Truths:

1: You cry every day and didn’t know why.

2: You felt like you lost yourself. You weren't YOU anymore just *someone’s mom.*

3: You resented your partner for sleeping peacefully while you were awake all night.

4: You felt ashamed for not bonding with your baby immediately.

5: Your fears "I would never feel sexy or attractive again." 😥

*The Mental Battle> Postpartum Mind*

_Postpartum depression or anxiety but being too scared to talk about it.

_Feeling like a bad mother for not having it all together. You're only HUMAN 🫂 

_Thinking, "Did I make a mistake?" but being terrified to say it.

_Obsessing over the baby’s breathing and fearing they’d stop breathing at night. 😭

_Having your mind constantly play tricks on you during the early days of motherhood.

*The Physical Pain Nobody Prepared You For*

When the visitors left, reality sets in.

1: Painful stitches, 🪡 injection💉, drugs, 💊 tears, bleeding that lasted for weeks. 😣

2: Peeing or sitting became a nightmare.

3: Breastfeeding pain, cracked or sore nipples, engorgement and mastitis.

4: Constant tiredness and back pain.

5: Weight gain or stretch marks that crushed self-esteem.

*Relationship & Loneliness*

1: Feeling emotionally neglected by your partner after childbirth.

2: Being too touched-out for intimacy but not wanting to explain. “You’ve been held, climbed on, breastfed from, hugged, tugged and pulled all day.”🤦🏾‍♀️

3: Friends stopped calling, life moved on for them.😔

4: Missing your old life and feeling guilty about it.

5: Lonely even when surrounded by people.

*What You Wish Someone Told You*

_It was okay to ask for help.

_Not bonding right away is normal.

_Supportive partner not just hospital discharge paper.

_Loving your baby didn’t mean you'd lose yourself. 🫂 

To every mom who stayed silent after childbirth:

_Your pain was real. 

_Your story is valid.

_Motherhood broke you first before it blessed you.

_You are strong for conquering all struggles behind the birth photos.

_You are not just a mother, you’re still YOU evolving and you deserve love, care and REST.

Remember you’re not alone, you are seen & heard. There's no manual for motherhood but your heart is enough. Keep leading with love even when you're unsure.

Trust me you're doing better than you think, love is seen in little things too. Don't try to be a perfect mom just be a present one. Your presence is your child's safe space and that is everything. ❤️